Close  

Safety Notice

If you are a survivor, please be careful in reading the information compiled here. It is impossible to give information on ritual abuse, and about people's opinions about ritual abuse, in a way that is not upsetting and/or triggering. Only you know how much is wise to read, and how much information you can absorb at one time.

For Male Survivors

Adams, Kenneth M. and Morgan, Alexander P. (2007) When he's married to mom: How to help mother-enmeshed men open their hearts ... Fireside Books (Simon and Schuster), NY. NY.
NOTE: Mothers who treat their sons inappropriately as adults produce men who are mother-enmeshed. They may grow to be men who are ambivalent about commitment,  feel inadequate,  and experience sexual problems. They authors show ways to heal from enmeshment.
Preview in Google Books

Angelica, Jade Christine. (2002). We are not alone: A teenage boy's personal account of child sexual abuse from disclosure through prosecution and treatment.  Haworth Maltreatment and Trauma Press, NY. NY.
NOTE: A workbook for the stages of disclosure and healing.

Berendzen, Richard. (1993) Come here: A man overcomes the tragic aftermath of childhood sexual abuse. Villard Books, NY. NY.
NOTE: from the publisher "Publicly disgraced for making anonymous telephone calls, a former president of American University recounts his shattering experiences as a child victim of sexual abuse and incest, offering inspiration in the story of his painful healing."

Bolton, F.   MacEachron, A. and Morris. L.A. (1999) Males at risk: The other side of child sexual abuse. Sage Publications, London, UK.

Boyle, P. (1994) Scout's honor: Sexual abuse in America's most trusted institution. Prima Publishing, Rocklin, CA.

Breer, W. (1992) Diagnosis and treatment of the young male victim of sexual abuse. C.C.Thomas, Springfield, IL.

Brodie, Faithe. (1992) When the other woman Is His mother: A guide to identify your mate’s child abuse, incest, and dissociation. Winged Eagle Press, Tacoma, WA.

Camino, Lisa. (2000) Treating sexually abused boys: A practical guide for therapists and counselors. Jossey-Bass, San Francisco, CA.
NOTE: From the publisher: "Treating Sexually Abused Boys is a much-needed resource that offers clinical guidelines for addressing the unique needs of this population. Written by an expert in the field of childhood sexual abuse, the book contains a wealth of exercises and activities that can be effectively applied in individual and group therapy settings. The techniques and exercises outlined are specifically designed to help sexually abused boys overcome feelings of helplessness, fear, and vulnerability and regain a sense of personal power."

Crowder, Adrienne. (1995) Opening the door: a treatment model for therapy with male survivors of Sexual Abuse. Brunner/Mazel, NY, NY.
TABLE OF CONTENTS: Prevalence Impacts and Issues...Treatment Model and Stages of Healing...General Therapeutic Considerations...Individual Therapy: The Victim Phase...Individual Therapy The Survivor Phase...Individual Therapy The Thriver Phase...Group Therapy with Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse...Critical Issues in Treating Male Survivors ...Counselling Adolescent Male Survivors...Therapist Issues ...Resources ...Appendix A Questionnaire... Appendix B Contributors...Appendix C DES... Appendix D Intervention to Manage Flashbacks...Appendix E Behaviors that Support Group Process...Appendix F Dean Adolescent Inventory Scale
Preview in Google Books

Davis, Laura. (1990) The courage to heal workbook: for women and men survivors of child sexual abuse. Harper and Row, NY. NY.
TABLE OF CONTENTS: INTRODUCTION: ABOUT THE EXERCISES IN THIS BOOK: SURVIVAL SKILLS FOR HEALING: BUILDING YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM: DEALING WITH CRISIS: NURTURING YOURSELF: MARKING THE WAY: I COME FROM?: HOW DID IT CHANGE MY LIFE?: HOW DID I SURVIVE?:  ASPECTS OF HEALING: RESOLUTION AND MOVING ON:  REMEMBERING: BELIEVING IT HAPPENED: BREAKING SILENCE: UNDERSTANDING THAT IT WASNT YOUR FAULT: LEARNING TO TRUST YOURSELF: GRIEVING AND MOURNING: ANGER: CONFRONTATIONS: DEALING WITH YOUR FAMILY NOW: GUIDELINES FOR HEALING SEXUALLY: RESOURCES
Preview in Google Books

Dennis, O’Brien. (2005)  Understanding male Sexual abuse: Why male victims remain silent.  iUniverse, NY, NY.?TABLE OF CONTENTS:
Introduction: Confession: Ne Me Quite Pas: Love Wouldnt Count Me Out: A thin line between love and hate: Till Shiloh: Men in pain: Chi Chi Man: Waiting to Exhale: No woman no Cry: Get Up stand up: The real deal: I Dont Wanna Cry: Truth Hurts: Street Boys: Confusion: Fire pan Rome: Seeking help: Sexual abuse and the family: Why do we trust?: Forgiveness: Resources: Bibliography
NOTE: Publisher’s information: Dennis reveals the powerful and intriguing stories of Jamaican male sexual abuse survivors, but also divulges unknown facts about Jamaican society - including the concept that homosexuality is an evil act, punishable by imprisonment of up to ten years of hard labor. Yet each week in Jamaica, there are over fifteen reported cases of sexual abuse of young men and boys, many more cases go unreported because men fear for their lives if they disclose.
Preview in Google Books

De Milly, Walter. (1999) In my father's arms:  A true story of incest. Univ. of Wisconsin Press, Madison, WI.
Preview in Google Books
NOTE: From the publisher: "The TV-perfectfamily of Walter de Milly III was like many others in the American South of the 1950s -- seemingly close-knit, solidly respectable, and active in the community.Tragically, Walter's deeply troubled father would launch his family on a perilous journey into darkness. To the outside world, this man is a prominent businessman, a dignified Presbyterian, and a faithful husband; to Walter, he is an overwhelming, handsome monster. Whenever the two are together, young Walter becomes a sexual plaything for his father; father and son outings are turned into soul-obliterating nightmares. Walter eventually becomes a successful businessman only to be stricken by another catastrophe: his father, at the age of seventy, is caught molesting a young boy. Walter is asked to confront his father. He convenes the family, and in a private conference with a psychiatrist, his father agrees to be surgically castrated. De Milly's portraits of his relationships with his father and mother, and the confrontation that,leads to his father's bizarre and irreversible voluntary "cure", are certain to be remembered long after the reader has set aside this powerful contribution to the literature of incest survival."

Echols, Mike. (1996) Brother Tony’s boys: The largest case of child prostitution in U.S. history: The true story. Prometheus Books, Amherst, NY.
NOTE: From the publisher: For over 25 years, charismatic Pentecostal evangelist Brother Tony Leyva used Christianity, the Bible, and his status as an "annointed prophet of God" to gain access to, seduce, and sexually assault the young sons of his enthralled followers in 23 states. How could such heinous acts continue undetected for over two decades? "Brother Tony's Boys" peels back the multiple layers of this twisted evangelist's double life to answer this and other bone-chilling questions. Read the riveting true story of how Leyva brought his old-fashioned hellfire and brimstone revival to cities and towns from Florida to New York and from Illinois to Louisiana and, under the cloak of God, systematically manipulated and sexually assaulted adolescent boys and procured victims for other "men of God". Using eyewitness accounts of victims, Mike Echols, author of the bestseller and 5-time Emmy nominated mini-series "I Know My First Name Is Steven", strips bare the world of Pentecostals in the United States today to reveal how, in this unique yet growing Christian sect, impassioned faith and devotion to the "annointed ones" blinded parents to the evil in their midst.

Estrada, Hank. (1994) Recovery for male victims of sexual abuse. Red Rabbit Press, Santa Fe, NM.

Etherington, Kim. (2000) Narrative approaches to working with male survivors of child sexual abuse: The client’s, the counsellor’s and the researcher’s story. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, London, England and Philadelphia, PA.
TABLE OF CONTENTS: Stephens Story: Mikes Story: A Tale of Therapy: The Therapeutic Relationship: Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: Writing as Therapy: Writing to and from the Inner Child: Collaborative Working: The Swamp: Ethics: Research Methods: Doing the Research: Sorting Data and Writing: Where Three Streams Meet: Resource list
Preview in Google Books

Friedrich, William N. (1995) Psychotherapy with sexually Abused boys: An integrated approach. Sage Publications, Thousand Oaks, CA.
TABLE OF CONTENTS: Introduction to the model:Part 1 Attachment: An Overview: Attachment: Individual Therapy: Attachment: Group Therapy: Attachment: Family Therapy: Part II Dysregulation: An Overview: Dysregulation: Individual Therapy: Dysregulation: Group Therapy: Dysregulation: Family Therapy: Part III Self-regulation: An Overview: Self-regulation: ndividual Therapy: Self-regulation: Group Therapy: Self-regulation: Family Therapy: Appendix A: Appendix B
Preview in Google Books

Gartner, R. B. (1999) Betrayed as boys: Psychodynamic treatment of sexually abused men. Guilford Press, NY. NY.
NOTE: From the publisher: More than one in six boys in the United States in sexually victimized by the age of 16. Yet in the growing professional literature on child sexual abuse, few books focus specifically on the experience of victimized boys and men. This much-needed volume examines how sexual betrayal affects boys and the ways they carry this hurt into adulthood. Blending psychoanalytic understanding with insights from trauma-orientated theory and practice, Richard B. Gartner presents effective strategies for meeting the unique therapeutic needs of men with sexual abuse histories. Filled with evocative clinical material, the book draws readers into the direct experience of these clients, the therapists who work with them, and the constantly shifting relational world they inhabit.
Preview in Google Books

Gartner, R. B. (2005) Beyond betrayal: Taking charge of your life after boyhood sexual abuse. John Wiley and Sons, Hoboken, NJ.
NOTE: This book covers both male and female abuse of boys and young men, by family members, clergy, teachers, babysitters, and health professionals. In this powerful book, Dr. Gartner allows his patients to speak for themselves. Dr Gartner's patients share their stories to illustrate the effects of abuse and the process of healing.
Preview in Google Books

Geffner, Robert , Crumpton Franey, Kristina , and Geffner, Teri . Identifying and treating youth who sexually offend: Current approaches, techniques, and research. Hayworth Press, Binghampton, NY.
TABLE OF CONTENTS: Assessment and Treatment: Youth who Sexually Offend: Theoretical Issues: Characteristics of Youth who Sexually Offend: Testing an Etiological Model for  Male Juvenile Sexual Offending against Females:  Assessing Sexually Abusive Youth: Differentiating Youth who Sexually Abuse: Risk Assessment of Sexually Abusive Youth: Emerging Strategies for Risk Assessment of Sexually Abusive Youth: Interviewing Strategies with Sexually Abusive Youth:  Treatment of Juveniles Who Sexually Offend: Working with Parents to Reduce Juvenile Sex Offender Recidivism: : Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment for Adolescents Who Sexually Offend and Their Families: An Integrated Experiential Approach to Treating Young People Who Sexually Abuse:   MultiFamily Group Therapy for Sexually Abusive Youth:  Current Practices in Residential Treatment for Adolescent Sexual Offenders: Recidivism and Resilience in Juvenile Sexual Offenders: Treatment Effectiveness for Male Adolescent Sexual Offenders: An Investigation of Successfully Treated  Adolescent Sex Offenders: Index
Preview in Google Books

Gonsiorek, John C., Bera, Walter H., and LeTourneau, Donald. (1994) Male sexual abuse: A trilogy of intervention strategies. Sage Publications, Thousand Oaks, CA.
NOTE: From the publisher: "Drawing upon adaptations of self-psychology, Gonsiorek describes assessment, treatment planning and individual psychotherapy, including cognitive-behavioural techniques. For working with perpetrators, Bera explores a type of family systems therapy and a victim-sensitive therapy. Finally, a model for working with an ignored population sometimes viewed as untreatable in therapy - young male street prostitutes - is presented by LeTourneau."

Grubman-Black, Stephen. (1990, 2nd edition 2002) Broken boys/mending men: Recovery from childhood sexual abuse. Blackburn Press, Caldwell, NJ.
NOTE: From the author: "This book is meant to encourage telling, so that feeling returns. It is meant to affirm for victims, survivors, and those others who care and want to help, that it's okay to tell."

Henton, Darcy, and McCann, D. (1995) Boys don't cry: The struggle for justice and healing in Canada's biggest sex abuse scandal. McClelland and Stewart, Toronto, ONT, Canada.

Hunter, Mic. (1989) Abused boys: The neglected victims of sexual abuse. Lexington Books, NY, NY.
NOTE: From the publisher: "A long overdue book by a psychologist who has extensive clinical experience treating male victims of child sexual abuse, it explodes the myth that sexual abuse of male children is rare, or that the consequences are less serious than for girls. Hunter examines the physical and emotional impact of abuse on its victims and the factors affecting revovery. With personal case histories of victims and their families, this is a powerfully written and meticulously researched book that is a landmark in the field of child sexual abuse literature."

Hunter, Mic. (1990) The sexually abused male.”Vol. I: Prevalence, impact, and treatment  and Vol. II: Application of Treatment Strategies. Lexington Books, Lexington, MA.

Hunter, Mic., Ed. (1995) Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse: Treatment Innovations. Sage Publications. Thousand Oaks, CA.
NOTE: Topics discussed include: a review of dynamically based theories:  survivors' sexual problems, such as compulsivity: and clients with special needs, such as survivors with personality disorders.

Hunter, Mic., Ed. (1995) Child survivors and perpetrators of sexual abuse: Treatment innovations. Sage Publications, Thousand Oaks, CA.

King, Neal. (1995) Speaking our truth: Voices of courage and healing for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse. HarperCollins; Harper Paperback, NY, NY.
NOTE:  Men who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse share their stories and adult experiences, outline stages in the healing process, and offer hope, inspiration, and guidance for other survivors.

Kuhn, Judy, Ed. (2000) In cabin six: An anthology of poetry by male survivors of sexual abuse. Impact Publishing, Atascadero, CA.
NOTE: Probably the only anthology of poetry by make survivors.

La Valle, John. (1996) Everything you need to know when you are the male survivor of rape or sexual assault. The Rosen Company, NY. NY.

Larsen, Earnest. Abused boys, wounded men: Workbook. Hazelden, Center City, MN.
NOTE: This book, and it's companion facilitator's guide, was developed for inmates and parolees who are dealing with the repercussions of childhood abuse. This six-session course is to help men understand what abuse looks like, determine whether they have suffered from abuse, and take steps to move forward.
Preview in Google Books

Lew, Mike. 2004) Victims no longer: The classic guide for men recovering from sexual child abuse.  Harper Row, NY. NY. 2nd ed. (2004), HarperCollins, NY. NY.
TABLE OF CONTENTS:  SEXUAL ABUSE MYTHS AND REAITY: MESSAGES ABOUT MASCULINITY: MEN AND FEELINGS: SEXUALITY, HOMOPHOBIA, AND SHAME: LOSS OF CHILDHOOD: SURVIVAL STRATEGIES A NEW PERSPECTIVE: FORGETTING DENYING DISTANCING AND PRETENDING: NUMBING: COMPARTMENTS: SELF IMAGE, SELF-ESTEEM and PERFECTIONISM: SEX TRUST AND CARING: IS RECOVERY POSSIBLE?: BREAKING SECRECY: RELATIONSHIPS AND SOCIAL SUPPORT: SEXUAL FEELINGS: INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING: GROUPS AND WORKSHOPS: CONFRONTATION: CLERGY ABUSE: ABOUT FORGIVING: MOVING ON: FOR AND ABOUT PARTNERS FAMILY AND FRIENDS: OTHER RESOURCES: BOOKS ARTICLES AND PAMPHLETS: A FINAL WORD
Preview in Google Books

Lew, Mike. (1999 Leaping upon the mountains: Men proclaiming victory over sexual child abuse. Small Wonder Books, Jamaica Plain, MA.
TABLE OF CONTENTS:  Part 1: Early Recovery: Books and Reading: Safe Environments: Professional Resources: Safe and Supportive Persons: Writing Activities: Other Creative Activities: Taking Difficult but Necessary Steps: Attention to Self: Attention to Others: Religion and Spirituality: Feelings: Intimate Relationships: Part 2: Mid-Recovery:  Books and Reading: Safe Environments: Professional Resources: Safe and Supportive Persons: Writing Activities: Other Creative Activities: Taking Difficult but Necessary Steps: Attention to Self: Attention to Others: Religion and Spirituality: The Role of Feelings: Forgiveness, Risk, and Changes: Part 3: Late Recovery:  Books and Reading: Safe Environments: Professional Resources: Safe and Supportive Persons: Writing Activities: Other Creative Activities: Taking Difficult but Necessary Steps: Confrontation: Limits and Boundaries: Attention to Self: Attention to Others: Religion and Spirituality: Interpersonal Exploration: Foregiveness: The Role of Feelings: Trust: Hope, Grace, and Moving  On:  Part 4: Victorious Messages: Man to Man: Argentina to Zimbabwe: Afterword:  How Far We've Journeyed and what is Ahead: Resources: About the Author
Preview in Google Books

McEvoy, Alan, Brookings, Jeff, and Rollo, Debbie, Eds. (1999) If he Is raped: A guidebook for parents, mates, and friends. Learning Publications, Holmes Beach, FL.

McMullen, Richie. (1990) Male rape: Breaking the silence on the last taboo. The Gay Men’s Press, London, UK.

Mathews, Frederick. (1996) The invisible boy: Revisioning the victimization of male children and teens. National Clearinghouse on Family Violence, Ottawa, Canada.

Mease, Bill. (1992) How can I help him? A handbook for partners of men sexually abused as children. Hazelden, Center City, MN.

Mendel, Matthew Parynik. (1995) The male survivor: The impact of sexual abuse. Sage Publications, Thousand Oaks, CA.
NOTE: Based on a clinical sample from the Unites states.

Meth, Richard, Pasick, Robert, et.al. (1990) Men in therapy: The challenge of change. Guilford Press, NY. NY.
TABLE OF CONTENTS: The Road to Masculinity: Raised to Work: Men as Husbands: Fathers and Fathering: Friendship between Men: Creating a Framework for Change: Helping Men Understand Themselves: Helping Men in Couple Relationships: Men and Sexuality: Men and Mothers: Men and Their Fathers: Being a Father: Changing the Nature of Friendship
\Preview in Google Books

Miletski, Hani and Johnson, Scott A. (1997) Mother-son incest: The unthinkable broken taboo. Safer Society Press, Brandon, VT.

Moran, Martin. (2005) The tricky part: One boy’s fall from trespass into grace. Beacon Press, Boston, MA.
NOTE: A survivor of Catholic priest abuse explores the complicated personal legacy of his ordeal, from his relationship to the Church, which was damaged by the events, to his sex life and relationships.
Preview in Google Books

Palmer, Tink and Wootliff, Jeremy. (2001) No son of mine! children abused through prostitution. Barnardo

Mura, David. (1987) A male grief: Notes on pornography and addiction. Milkweed Editions, Minneapolis, MN.

Salter, Anna C., Ed. (1988) Treating Child Sexual Offenders and Victims. Sage Publications, Beverley Hills, CA, London, England.
TABLE OF CONTENTS: Occurrence of Child Sexual Abuse: Nonoffending Family Members: Philosophy of Treatment Programs: Differences in Treating Child Sexual Offenders and Other Clients: Offender Denial: Offender Treatment: Relapse Prevention: Measuring the Offenders Progress: Spouse and Victim Treatment: Victim Identification and Behavior: Conclusions: Appendices
Preview in Google Books

Sanders, Timothy L. (l991) Male survivors: 12-Step recovery program for survivors of childhood sexual abuse.  Crossing Press, CA.

Scarce, M. (1997) Male on male rape: The hidden toll of stigma and shame. Insight Books (Plenum Press), NY. NY.
TABLE OF CONTENTS: Introduction:  Uncovering Male Rape: The Segregation of Male Rape: An Assault on Sexual Identity: False Intentions: The Spectacle of Male Rape: Darrens Abduction: The Intersection:  Medical Sensitivity:  Survival: Polking the Law: A Profeminist: Gendered Conflict: Initiating Change
Preview in Google Books

Sonkin, Daniel Jay. (1998) Wounded boys heroic men: A man’s guide to recovering from child abuse. Adams Media, Holbrook, MA.
NOTE: A  workbook for men who have been physically, sexually, or psychologically abused with instructions for applyingmethods by which abused men can avoid abusing others.
Preview in Google Books

Spiegel, Josef. (2003) Sexual abuse of males: The SAM model of theory and practice. Brunner-Routledge, NY, NY.
TABLE OF CONTENTS: INTRODUCTION: THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE SAM MODEL: ASSUMPTIONS OF THE SAM MODEL: THE SAM MODEL OF DYNAMICS AND EFFECTS: APPLICATION OF THE SAM MODEL: THE SAM MODEL OF PHILOSOPHY OF PRACTICE: PREPARATORY EMPATHY:  THE SAM MODEL OF TRF ATMENT AND  OBJECTIVES: AN ANALOGY: INTERVENTIONS FOR SAM: FROM SAM
NOTE: Adapted from the publisher's description. Based on the life histories of more than one thousand sexually abused boys and adult males with histories of childhood sexual abuse, Sexual Abuse of Males examines the myriad biological, psychological, interpersonal, familial, and social variables that underlie and impact the experience of childhood sexual abuse. Guided by research and informed by practice, this book t presents an extensive review of the literature, a well-groun ded theoretical model of abuse dynamics and effects, a systematic model of treatment. This information is further elucidated through case illustrations that highlight the effects of sexual abuse with regard to biological, psychological, and social adaptation, and development.
Preview in Google Books

Thomas, T. (1989) Men surviving incest:  A male survivor shares on the process of recovery. Launch Press, Walnut Creek, CA.

Tobin, Rod. (1999) Alone and forgotten: The sexually abused man. Creative Bound, Carp. ON, Canada.
NOTE: From the Publisher: In 1992, therapist Rod Tobin began working with male survivors of sexual abuse. Half of the men treated came from the general public; the other half had suffered abuse at boy's training schools. In "Alone and Forgotten", he examines the major symptoms of sexually abused men, and explains how society's perceptions and the survivor's healing process differ from that of their female counterparts. This book offers a positive process of healing for male survivors of sexual abuse.

Wiehe, V. (1996) The brother-sister hurt: Recognizing the effects of sibling abuse. Safer Society Press, Brandon, VT.

Wright, Leslie, Loiselle, Mindy, and Bear, Euan, Eds. (1999) Back on track: Boys dealing with sexual abuse. Safer Society Press, Brandon, VT.

 

Back to top